LIVING IN GREECE ... A repost
Imagine having a mother in law who threatened to have the police stop your wedding ceremony, who couldn’t understand that all the world didn’t speak greek, didn’t want her son to marry you because you didn’t have a dowry and couldn’t understand why my brothers didn’t buy a house for me. An alien culture.
Growing up in the Bay of Plenty. Growing up in the 60s. We were free, the world was our oyster. I remember biking, many miles, with my younger brother , from Te Puke to our bach at Papamoa. A bach* still there, now prime waterfront real estate** but no longer owned by the family
In the olden days and up until few years ago the traffic was constant, the side wind from logging trucks could have hurled us into the road or over into a silage pit. No place for 10 year olds on bicycles. Main highway.
I haven’t been back since my father’s funeral in September 2006. 20 years.
** real estate, realestate, relestate. I had to look that up. Nowadays a thesaurus is essential equipment as I write. No longer fluent in English, or Greek
*This bach, small holiday home, was built by my father from an old garage. Basic, long drop loos in the early years and artesian water we had to pump to fill the tank, but right above the waves.
I used to miss NZ acutely, smells, sounds, accents, family . Now I’m just as much at home in Greece as I once was back there. I used to feel rejuvenated as I stepped back on New Zealand soil, back to a place which I knew and understood. I could understand the language, the laws, those laws which back then Greeks considered so strict and suffocating. But NZers took for granted and (mostly) obeyed. I understood the culture, could (sort of) pronounce the Maori place names, and knew my way home even though I had been away for years. No, amend that. I did not know how to get out of Auckland. A huge city surrounded by multi-lane highways. I was used to just one road, most of it without a white line down the middle, no traffic lights, no pedestrian crossings.
I once got a traffic ticket in Tauranga for parking facing the wrong way. Is that possible? I wrote the Council a letter explaining what a law abiding citizen I was BUT also explaining where I came from. A small greek island where we double parked and left the keys in the car in case someone needed to move it.
Where most roads are so narrow you drive in the middle. Where, back then, there were no traffic police, no-one wore a helmet or a seat belt. The right hand rule was probably on the books but you gave way, or not, depending who was approaching and where you met. One golden rule. Always give way to taxis. The Tauranga council cancelled my parking ticket.
My father told us that we should see our own country before leaving and we had summer camping holidays all over the country. I wish I could remember more about these trips. I know we loaded up the car with a huge roof rack of tents and tables. Four kids in a car. Arguing of course. One of my brothers was once turfed out and left on the side of the road. That shut us all up. We did go back to pick him up, to my relief
We visited the far north and went to Coromandel many times. I remember going down to a farm to get a container of milk from the farmer’s cows. All things you just wouldn’t do anymore. Someone would call child services on you for ‘abandoning’ a child on the sound of the road and milk now has to be sterilized or pasteurized, or both.
I felt, ‘knew’ , when I left New Zealand that I wouldn’t be returning for a long time. It took 11 years before I came back to NZ, with my greek family, and that was only because the extended family rallied round and bought our tickets.
Now my daughter Elli says she feels a very strong tie to NZ, as though she has been born in the wrong country. My niece Katy says the Maori have a word for this. Tangatawhenua, the feeling of belonging. All my greek family love anything NZ and they’ve all visited except the youngest grandchildren. Daughter Elli should be living there. At the moment its hard to even afford the passport.
My downunder family, brothers, beloved sisters in law, the next generation, nephews and nieces all love Poros . I'm lucky, grateful, that they visit year after year.























